Here is a great paradox: the very thing that attracts us to another person is the very reason why we end up arguing with him or her! If, for example, you are an organized and methodical person, you might be attracted to your partnerʼs carefree ways. Initially, it seems a liberation from the burdens of responsibility. After a while, though, what appeared to be endearing now seems chaotic, and irritating. Romantic love always leads us to choose a partner whose attitudes are antithetical to our own. Is it any surprise, then, that there are so many divorces?
When a relationship fails, we either blame ourself or our partner or both. In the hope of not repeating the same mistake, we consult any of the thousands of self-help books on the subject. Or we seek advice from relationship gurus, like Dr. Phil.We might doubt ourselves and we might doubt each other, but we will almost never doubt the very possibility that male/female relationships can bring happiness and fulfillment.
But what if relationships themselves are a contradictory enterprise? What if the demands that each person makes is actually impossible for their partner to fulfill? We wonʼt delve, here, into what it is is about the romantic quest for fulfillment that is contradictory. But Dr. Dillof has written an unusual book on the subject, called: “Awakening with the Enemy: The Origin and End of Male/Female Relationships.” The good news is that it is possible to awaken together from a mutual nightmare and, in so doing, to reach a new level of intimacy. The possibilities are amazing!
Fighting more in your marriage and enjoying being together less? Dr. Dillof offers relationship counseling and marriage counseling for those in troubled relationships, by phone and in person. For information about how his relationship and marriage counseling can help your relationship or marriage, telephone him toll-free at: 1-888-737-5724 or local at: (607) 723-2663 or e-mail him at mdillof@verizon.net. The telephone can allow for an intense conversation. Why, then, drive to a session — in the rain, snow, cold and dark — spending money on fuel?
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